Unaware of Self Awareness

Unaware of Self Awareness

This pathway covers our Unconscious Incompetence, where we don't know what we don't know about Self Awareness.

Now that you have found your way to this page, we assume that one of the following has lead you here . . .

  • You are not aware of the existence of Self Awareness
  • You are unaware of your lack of knowledge in Self Awareness
  • You deny the relevance or usefulness of Self Awareness as a skill

If any of the above do apply to you, your skill level is known as ‘Unconscious Incompetent‘ in the skill of Self Awareness. This is a very academic term, and no offence is intended 🙂

Unconscious Incompetence

The individual does not understand or know how to do something and does not necessarily recognize the deficit. They may deny the usefulness of the skill. The individual must recognize their own incompetence, and the value of the new skill, before moving on to the next stage.

If none of the above assumptions apply to you then you must be aware, to some degree, of what Self Awareness is. Congratulations, this means you may be entering the ‘Conscious Incompetence‘ stage, where you kinda know what Self Awareness exists, and you want to find out more . . . or you know something about it, but think it’s not for you (or you think it’s a load of *&%$). But at least you are Conscious of this Self Awareness thing.

Either way, we encourage you to read to the end of this article, which will place you firmly in the Conscious Incompetence stage of the Self Awareness skill.

And that’s a good thing.

So what IS this self awareness . . . ?

Awareness is our natural ability to focus our attention on what is going on with world around us. When we apply that awareness ability to ourself, it becomes Self Awareness.

So for our practical purposes, Self Awareness is about . . .

 paying attention to yourself, and recognising the awareness of yourself.


In the below article, the author discusses Self Awareness Theory, what Self Awareness is and how to use it.

An excellent read. 

Key points from this article:

Self Awareness . . .

  • is arguably the most fundamental issue in psychology
  • naturally starts when we are very young, but 
  • is the recognition of one’s awareness of yourself (as in . . . body, mind and spirit) 
  • is vital to reaching your full potential
  • enables us to evaluate and compare our behavior to our internal standards and values

Am I Self Aware? . . . asking for a friend

Here are a few signals that may indicate that you are not your friend is not so self aware . . .

  • Their life in general feels somewhat unfulfilled and anxious for no apparent reason
  • They are continuously and overly defensive, controlling or aggressive
  • They tend to micromanage other people & situations
  • It’s never their fault
  • With critical feedback, their emotions can spiral out of control, or they won’t listen or accept it.
  • They have little or no empathy for other peoples problems
  • They are quick to take credit for success, and quick to blame others for failure..
  • They don’t recognise any of the above signals in themselves

. . . but having any of these signals doesn’t mean that your friend is a bad person.


Recognition of being aware

Part of being self aware is the skill to build on our naturally developed self awareness, that we developed from infancy to adolescence, by recognising your own self. This recognition comes in the for of . . .

  • Meta-cognition – recognising one’s own cognitive abilities. Being aware of being aware. Thinking about thinking. 
  • Awareness of our Body, Mind and Spirit
  • Accurate Self Assessment – knowing our strengths and limitations
  • Spotting patterns of behaviour in ourself
  • Introspection, reflection and insight
  • Ask What, not Why
  • Recognising our emotions, feelings, behaviour & character
  • Acknowledgement and acceptance of our abilities
  • Noticing how our thoughts and actions impact others
  • Identifying false Self Awareness, aka Ego



Learning to become more Self Aware

In the next pathway: upgrade your skill level to Conscious incompetence – Self-Awareness Discovery.

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